• Lexie Thiery

Watch Yourself

"The soothing tongue is a tree of life, but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit."

-Proverbs 15:4

Perverseness= purposely going against what is desired

Our words matter. Everyday we get to choose whether or not we speak words that lift someone up, or destroy them.

For as long as I can remember, I would always just try to focus on what I said to others. I have a bit of a temper and I found that I often used the hurt I was feeling inside about myself to lash out onto others, especially those I love.

When I read this verse though, I remembered that its not just about what we say to others, but our own words can hurt us too.

Being women, its SO easy to pick ourselves apart. And I am no expectation. I like to pick myself apart way more than Id like to admit.

I remember one time not too long ago I found myself trying on bathing suits (this is where it gets every body else too) and was almost in tears at what I saw.

But who was saying those hateful words to me? No one.

Who was saying "wow Lexie, that cellulite looks disgusting"? I was

What voice was whispering to put my clothes back on and hide myself for what my body looks like? That was me too.

Now don't get me wrong, it wasn't just myself thinking these thoughts, it was the Enemy in my mind. But by letting myself think negatively, I was just opening the door for him to read havoc on the rest of my mind.

After I went home that day, I had a terrible day. One of those days where you lack all motivation to go out and do anything because I was so upset and pouting about what had happened earlier that day. I even went so far to lash out at my husband who was trying to love on me and show me kindness and truth, but I wouldn't hear it. I had let that slithery lier into my mind and it plaqued me. It changed the way I though about myself that day.

Thankfully God tapped me on the shoulder and told me I was being compromised, but I could have stopped that attack. I could have realized that those thoughts were not of God, but I chose to give into the self hate and pity.

Its a choice. It really is. And by that I mean, its a choice whether or not you listen to the angel or devil on your shoulder.

You are your own worst critic and I guarantee you would NEVER be able to look at your best friend or mom and point out to her all of her flaws to her face or say the same things we say to ourselves. You can't do that because you don't see them.

I like to use this analogy...picture the person you look up to most in the world. The person you respect, love, and get inspiration from. Do you look at this person any differently because of their weight? What they look like? Or how they carry themselves?

Probably not, because they inspire you.

For me, this person is my mom. It would never matter to me how much she weighed or what she looked like because no matter what the value I see in her would never decrease. THAT is how God sees you.

Or heres another example...

Go grab a picture of yourself. One where you are between 7-13.

Look at that picture and that little girl she is ugly. That she is gross. Worthless. Fat. I dare you...

Bet you can't. Because that little girl, that little innocent human being and beautiful soul doesn't know what good bad and ugly is. Maybe you were hurt and broken back then, but that doesn't define your worth. A dollar bill is still worth a dollar no matter what it looks like or what its been through. God looks down at his children and sees nothing but amazement, love, and value.

To build and grow in our relationship with God and for Him to use us to our full potential, we have to die to our old ways of thinking. We have to take up our cross and build our arsenal of Truth through His Word. We have to see ourselves through he sees us. That doesn't mean we love every single thing about ourselves, but it does mean that the lies and hate that we used to speak to ourselves would be replaced with grace and love. Just has he shows us. We have to watch ourselves and what we say, just as much as what we say to others. The tongue is so powerful.

Remember how Gods mercies are new every morning? Well so should yours be. Our minds have to focused on the truth and our lips have to declare it to both ourselves and the world.

Faith moves when we not only believe it, but we speak it to life.

When you feel that anxiety, fear, stress, lies, or negativity start to creep up in your mind..declare "Satan, get behind me" Matthew 16:23 and swing your first back to him with this truth “For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.” Ephesians 2:10

Reflect on todays verse:

"The soothing tongue is a tree of life, but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit."

-Proverbs 15:4

1. Do you find yourself speaking negatively to yourself? Do you think that this impacts your relationship with God and the people around you? How do you think God wants you to see yourself?

2. How is God speaking to you through this verse? What stands out to you the most?

3. Was there a lesson in this passage? How does it pertain to your life right now?

4. How do you feel God is using this passage to you move and grow you?

5. What are some steps you can take this week to embrace, and live out this truth?


I am not kind to myself. I know this full well. I am a human being in need of a Your love to remind me of my worth and my identity in you. Father God thank you for your constant reminders that I am valuable and untouchable when I choose your Truth over the enemies lies. Help me this week to fight those battles in my head with you at the forefront. I want my life to look like on the outside how I feel on the inside. Help me see myself the way you do, give me your eyes,


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